How to talk to an LGBTQ friend about Jesus
"Everyone needs love." - Reese Witherspoon
For the most part, Christians are not good about engaging the LGBTQ community. There seems to always be a barrier of judgement and ignorance when working to minister to someone from that realm.
Before going any further, what exactly is LGBTQ? It is an acronym and it stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning. If you don't know what one or more of those terms mean, I encourage you to google it!
With this, the judgement barrier between the Christian and LGBTQ community is built primarily by Christians. Yet, it is reinforced by the LGBTQ group. Because when you feel a group of people look down on you and find you strange, you tend not to like them either! I don't blame them.
The bible doesn't back up this type of treatment of any person or people group. What many Christians are operating from is their own preconceived ideas, not God's perfect plan.
So, as a Christian myself, I'd like to apologize to the LGBTQ community for any callous or cold actions I have portrayed. This world and God's kingdom have no room for that type of treatment. I, and many other Christians, need to learn to love better.
With that said, here are three simple ways to love our LGBTQ friends and eventually get to a gospel conversation:
1. Treat them like you would any other friend. It doesn't feel good to be ostracized. Spend time with them, laugh together and hear their heart like you would anyone else.
They are not some special project, they are people created on purpose, for a purpose. Treat them as such.
2. Do NOT talk to them about behavior before talking to them about Jesus. This mistake is made way to often. We use the bible to adjust someone's behavior before seeking to adjust their eternal standing with God.
In plain terms, we tell them how it‘s bad to be gay, lesbian etc. before we even share the Gospel with them! That's weak. Share the good news of God's love and forgiveness with them first, then worry about behavior later down the road.
God can save anyone, including them.
3. Once they commit their life to Christ, point them to the creation story. Personally, I would stay away from all the verses of the bible that directly condemn homosexuality, at least initially.
*Read my blog on homosexuality if you want more info.*
Instead point them towards Genesis 1 - 3. Explain to them that God made this world and the relationships within it to function in a certain format. One biological male with one biological female forever who then populate the Earth through children.
Give it a positive spin, not a "you are so sinful" spin. Explain that God doesn't make mistakes and that they were made the way they are on purpose and for a Purpose. Their biological gender is not a mistake, nor is their sexual orientation.
God can overcome and empower us to do anything He’s called us towards. Jackie Hill Perry has an incredible testimony on this. Look her up!
Continue to love and walk with them through it all. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Be patient, be kind and be compassionate.
All in all, Christians could greatly improve their reaching of the LGBTQ community if we were to continually practice these principles.