Thoughts on therapy
Updated: Sep 14, 2020
Disclaimer: I am not a Therapist nor a licensed counselor. I did not study psychology in college, nor have I done enough research to be considered even close to an expert on this topic. I am simply offering my anecdotal evidence to showcase the paramount value in therapy. Hope this encourages you.
“Do you need a second?” The counselor asked me. “Yeah… I really do. Sorry.” I replied, slightly embarrassed of my inability to process thoughts and keep my emotions under wraps. He walked away to give me a moment. When he left, I sat there on that stereotypical therapist leather couch – numb and discouraged. My brain felt fatigued almost, like I just completed five straight ACT Exams. I was undoing years of trauma. Years of loss, toxicity and hurt. It was mental sanity surgery, but there was no anesthesia in sight
It was the end of September. But my issues began many months earlier. I can’t pinpoint exactly, but sometime in the early summer I started to carry around a lot of negative thoughts. Not suicidal or even self – harm, just negative. A lot of self – doubt, anxiety and bitterness towards others. I found myself frustrated at the smallest things and took rides on the emotional rollercoaster daily. I had no control over myself emotionally. I had the highest highs and the lowest lows and couldn’t even it out. And the worst thing was: hardly anyone knew.Co-workers, friends nor family had any clue the battle I was fighting. Not because they didn’t care about me, but because my ego couldn’t bare the idea of someone thinking I didn’t have it all together.
I always prided myself on being a resilient person. I’ve battled some tough circumstances in life thus far, especially when it comes to losing loved ones. Both my parents died before I was 20 and after that it seemed like I lost someone close to me every 6 months or less – it was a difficult season, to say the least. But I always remained confident in the fact that though times were tough, I was tougher, and the unfortunate events wouldn’t affect me going forward. All I had to do was read my bible, pray, stay focused on my goals and I would be fine. But, I was wrong.
So, there I was, on a Therapist’s leather couch struggling to put sentences together, let alone coherent ones. Not knowing if I’d ever regain control over my emotions. Now, I could write a BOOK on what I learned in my months of therapy. I could talk a lot about my progress as far as trusting others, accepting people for who they are and not seeing the worst in every situation. But, I’ll save that for another post. Today, I just want to focus on the fact that everyone, at some point, should get counseling. In fact, it’s my firm belief that you should get counseling before you need counseling. Before the anxiety overwhelms you, before you fight with your spouse every day, before anger drives you to injure yourself or a loved one, before life seems like it’s not worth living – get counseling. News Flash: Therapy is not for crazy people, Therapy is for people with problems – which, last time I checked, everyone has them.
My encouragement to you is if you’ve battled ANY perpetual or significant negative circumstances you should go to counseling. Maybe your parents went through a divorce, maybe you grew up in an abusive home, maybe a significant other trampled your trust, or perhaps you’ve even lost someone close to you. All these things and more are reasons to see a professional counselor so that you can establish proper perspectives and develop healthy coping strategies in your life. Why? Because you are not strong enough to get through it on your own. I repeat, you are not strong enough to get through it on your own. Yes, I believe in the power of the word of God and prayer – I read and pray every day, multiple times a day. I am a believer that we serve a God who is a chain breaker and miracle worker that is capable of ALL things. But, along with the Word of God and prayer, He has given us the grace and resource of biblically trained mental health professionals for a reason. People whose sole person is to help you think and operate in a healthy and proper manner. Don’t under-utilize that due to the misunderstanding that you have to be crazy or already off the deep end to get therapy or counsel.
You don’t have to be perfect or even appear that way. Leave your pride at the cross and pursue real healing. Don’t buy into the lie that Christians can’t have problems. We all have them. In fact, Jesus lived a perfect life and died for us so that we don’t have to be ashamed of our issues. He loves you anyways and already knows what you harbor in your heart. And you can’t heal what you hide, so embrace healing today.
If you're interested, below are two great counseling centers near me (Houston, TX Area):
Second Baptist Counseling Center: https://www.second.org/counseling/
Houston Christian Counseling: https://christiancounselinghouston.com/